Disappointment Is Unsorted Thoughts
Disappointment, like emotions, is
unsorted thoughts. This view of disappointment is an
extension of my definitions of feelings and emotions
as unsorted thoughts. Here is a cute (I think!)
account of what I once called disappointment and
later recognized as unsorted thoughts.
One of my associate physician is
astute, knowledgeable, and diligent. I consider it
an honor to be associated with him. The first of
these statement was always true. There was a time
when I had doubts about the second. I asked him if I
can write and post this article. He replied, "Yes,
if you don’t disclose my identity." So here is the
short account of that.
My associate had the annoying
habit of asking me every question twice, and
sometimes three or more times. I respectfully and
gently pointed out that I closely listen to him the
first time and the second, third, or fourth time is
really not necessary.
Every time I spoke so he gave me
a disarming smile but completely ignored my request
when the next occasion arose. Everyone has quirks
and doctors are no exception. I have worked with
doctors for more than half a century now (excluding
my five years in medical school) and so I accept
such quirks, including my own, in good grace.
However, there is a limit.
After several months of futile
pleading, I began to wonder if our association were
going to last. I kept reminding myself of the
soundness of his clinical judgement and his other
medical virtues, but the problem persisted. My
disappointment grew with time until the endless
repetition of questions became exasperating. I
discussed this matter with one other associate and
prepared to let my associate leave. All that changed
for ever one day in a moment of clarity—a flash of
sorting the unsorted. I recognized that every time
he annoyed me, he did so because he firmly stood up
for the patient, for the safety of the patient. That
flash moment was followed by another flash: how
could miss something that obvious and for so long.
His repetitions ceased annoying me. I stopped
wondering about our continued association.
I anticipate a challenge. Hey,
your account may be acute but that’s not real life.
You’re in control. Your story is not of real
disappointments in life, not the real deep
disappointments of life. What does your story say
about the deep disappointment of the unemployed? And
about the people betrayed by those whom they
trusted? And the deep disappointment of broken
hearts and violated spirits. My short answer: Life
does not give immunity from such experiences to
anyone. There is no immunity to death itself. The
only true security is in the certain knowledge that
there is no security in life. That pursuit of
happiness brings more unhappiness than anything
else. Unsorted thoughts of deep disappointment call
for deep spiritual work—often for extended periods
of time—for sorting out the unsorted.
I close this article by offering
some healing words from my earlier writings:
* The way
we look at the world around us determines the state
of our being.
* One can
only know as much divinity as exists within one's
who learn the language of silence heal well.
* It is the
freedom from the need to be free that sets us free."
* Regret is
a thief - it steals life.
reward for reaching out to someone in need is not
what one receives for it, but what one becomes by
Related Philosophy Essays
Below is a list of my other essays of the subject
of the healing philosophy. These essays are based on
materials included in the twelve volumes of my
textbook, The Principles and
Practice of Integrative Medicine:
Absence of Freedom of Thought
Emotions Are Unsorted Thoughts
Disappointment Is Unsorted thoughts
* The Aristotle Principle
* The Darwin Principle
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